Category Archives: Love

Thanksliving

thanksliving-2I just spent the Thanksgiving weekend with my daughter, her three children, and my son’s four children (and my son and his wife part of the time but they didn’t spend their nights here). There was much soda drank, microwave popcorn consumed, cookies baked, and dinners made and eaten.

One of our family traditions is Grandma Cookie Day. With my daughter and her kids living in New Mexico, it is sometimes a real struggle to coordinate time to do it, but the tradition started when my oldest granddaughter was three was carried on this year (and she is 16). While the new cookie recipes didn’t turn out as nicely as I thought they might, they had fun decorating them. We also tried making taffy candy canes, which was an interesting experience and ended up a big pink blob of taffy, but one of them took it all home.

The object of this information is that I’m thankful–thankful that my grandchildren are growing into responsible, loving, and kind young adults; thankful that they continue to all get along together; thankful that my children get along and obviously love each other; thankful that my dad had a very short hospital stay and that my daughter and her kids got to see him while they were here; thankful that family fills my heart.

Traditions are important. As I’m sure I’ve posted before, traditions are much more important than gifts or money. The adults all remind me that once the kids start thinking about Christmas, they start asking about Cookie Day. While the whole Cookie Day experience was completely exhausting, watching the kids get excited about it and spending time decorating all of those cookies was worth it and it will definitely continue as long as they want to do it (and probably even after that!).

I’m going to try to celebrate Thanksliving every day all year long. I’m going to live each day with something to be thankful for. Right now, I’m kind of thankful for quiet. While I love having a houseful, it was definitely a houseful. PLUS I have regained control of my TV remote and I’m very thankful for that!

Show Your Love . . . Before It’s Too Late

Tell ThemI heard news today that tore at my heart. The father of my grandchildrens’ friends was killed yesterday in a traffic accident. I had never met him nor had I met his family. But the fact that it will affect my family affected me.

I’m not going to go into detail about exactly what happened to him other than to make a few points, and these don’t necessarily have anything to do with the details, just things that come into my mind:

  1. You never know when you will lose a loved one or good friend. Tell them today that you love them. Don’t wait! Treat them each day like it will be the last time you see them.
  2. Please, please be careful when you’re driving. Put your phone away and concentrate on what you’re doing. Pay attention. When you are driving, drive. Don’t drive distracted. Don’t Snapchat in your car. Don’t record your carpool karaoke for YouTube. Don’t have crazy conversations with your friends. Just. Drive.
  3. Recognize that your vehicle is a weapon. It is very capable of killing someone and I can’t imagine the horror of living with that for the rest of your life.
  4. Pray for everyone. Pray for his family that is now tasked with learning to live without his physical presence. Pray for the young woman who was behind the wheel of the car that killed him that she can somehow learn to deal with that knowledge. Pray for the police officers who came upon the horrific scene and now have to investigate exactly what happened. Pray for all of the people who knew him and didn’t get the chance to say goodbye. And say a little prayer for yourself that you can do the things I’ve mentioned above to prevent another senseless tragedy.

Take care of yourself and all of your loved ones, whether related by blood or by love. And please tell people how much they mean to you TODAY.

The Heart of The Matter

The Hear Of The MatterSix years ago today (as I write this), my life changed forever. My 32 year old son had a quadruple bypass. He was in cardiac ICU for something like 10 days. I don’t know exactly because I spent every day and night there so had no real concept of time. I went home to shower and nap every few days, but spent the bulk of my time at the hospital.

You don’t expect your children to have such a major surgery at such a young age. He nearly died–more than once–which really gives you an appreciation for life. It can be taken from you in an instant.

The heart is a fragile thing, yet also one of the strongest. It can be broken, healed, bypassed, and filled with love. All of that with one small organ. It is in charge of the fact that we are alive, pumping blood and oxygen throughout our body so other organs and cells and other scientific things (sorry–science was not my favorite subject in school) can function as they are intended to.

It is the center of your emotional being. You either love or hate with the same heart. Typically your heart acts long before your brain kicks in. But when your heart is full of love, it is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. However, when you allow hate to creep in, it eats some of that away.

Hate is a horrible emotion. There are things that I dislike (like liver!) and even things I intensely dislike (like bullying), but I try not to hate things or people. There isn’t enough room in my heart for hate. It would push some of the love out of the way and “ain’t nobody got time for that”! I would much rather fill my heart with love.

So take care of your heart, eat healthfully, love intensely, exercise, and don’t hate. Your heart (and your cardiologist) will thank you. You only get one heart and it is so much more fun and rewarding to keep it full of love. In fact, just when I think my heart is full, something or someone else comes along and I add just a little bit more and somehow it seems to fit just fine. Love of other people, love of new books or movies, love of pets, love of new parts of the world, love of new parts of your neighborhood, love of anything you think is worthy of your love. And that’s part of the fun of this thing called life–finding more and more things to love. Don’t waste a minute of your life on hate. That only really affects you. The person or thing you are prepared to hate probably doesn’t even realize it or doesn’t really care, so it is only impacting your life. Is that what you want impacting your life? Or would you rather have things that you love making an impact? My choice is the latter.

I Wanna Hold Your Hand!

Let's hold hands!There is no greater feeling than a small child’s hand in yours. Except maybe an older child’s hand in yours. Or maybe the hand of the love of your life in yours.

Holding hands with anyone is a great feeling. It is a connection to another person in a tangible way. It is a way of speeding up or slowing down and keeping up with someone else. It is–by far–the ONLY PDA (public display of affection) I want to see from anyone!

When I see people holding hands, my brain immediately says “Aww” and it makes me happy for them. My husband and I are not big hand holders, although we do when we’re out together (but I think mostly to keep me from speeding off ahead of him or wandering off).

I love (and have loved) holding my childrens’ and grandchildrens’ hands. It just makes me feel like I have a great responsibility, I have another person to take care of, I have someone depending on me. And they are (or have been) so very small. But they fit just perfectly in mine–as if they were designed to fit together.

So the next time you are with someone you love (don’t try this with strangers or you could be charged with kidnapping!), grab their hand and hang on. Pretty soon, they will relax and hold your hand back. And they will probably look at you and smile! Plus plus! It’s an unobtrusive way to show love in a pda (private display of affection–in all small letters because it isn’t screaming out for attention like the PDA!).

My husband always says that women love getting flowers, but they love getting flowers at work more so they can be the envy of all of their coworkers. The same holds true with hand holding. It is nice on your couch watching a movie, but it is better in public. What better way to scream “THIS PERSON LOVES ME!” than by holding their hand.